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DEATH OF NAIVETY

Some people say humans are viruses and that we destroy everything we touch. I won’t disagree that we are an invasive species, where interestingly enough we call all creatures and plants the same, even though we introduced most of them into areas they shouldn’t be. Now we have no excuses. Our collective education has surmounted to a great height. Or has it? We cannot claim for much longer the lizard / monkey brain as an excuse. People all over the world are dying. We’re not apes throwing shit at each other, killing for territory, and … oh wait, we are still doing that. Humans have come a long way. We’re young, I mean, we just got electricity in the late 1800’s. Yes, we have drastic civil injustice, we are doing terrible things to people, pissing on the ground to claim our turf, I mean, we even did it on the moon. Flag. Bam!

Yes, we are still monkey’s, we’re still lizards, but when do we claim otherwise? We’re in outer space, cameras sooo far away, incalculable distances, yet corners of the earth still commence in genital mutilation and vast populations still defecate in public due to no plumbing. We know eating too much red meat is bad for us. We know we need to grow more vegetables so we can feed more people and stop using hundreds of gallons of water to generate a single lb of beef. We know it’s ok if two men love each other. It’s two humans, who love another…

Oh, can I remind you again that we’re launching then landing rockets back on Earth now? We’re solving problems, that we created! Is there a single non-profit working toward a cause that we humans didn’t cause in the first place? This cycle is in itself, dysfunctional, don’t you agree? Theatre. Why are we raising money for theatre, music venues, and community gardens? Why are non-profits raising money for school books, for the environment, social equality, etc.?

TIME TRAVELING

I talk about time travel from time to time, because… it’s real. We’ve all seen the movies about altering the past, changing the future, some guy steps on a bug back in the dinosaur era, 65 to 230 million years ago, then Donald Trump never becomes president.

Something more attainable however… is what can we do for ourselves, knowing, and believing that we are indeed time traveling, warping through space, spending our lives on habits and patterns that are engrained in us. What happens to us if we eat healthy, or start our business, or start painting again, daily, and we set that as a pattern in ourselves, perhaps spending 21 consecutive days doing so, then we warp through time.

What year do we land in, and who are we?

We land in tomorrow, and the day after, and the day, week, month, year, decade, decades after that.

We, arrive!

We arrive at the better , ideal image of ourselves. We arrive at this, very realistic scenario, of where we want to be in our lives. Short term goals and objectives, fought for, strived for, where we then blank out, and arrive, like a hibernating state on a spaceship to Mars, because you will arrive. We will arrive, and you will want to wake up on that day, at whatever age it is, and know that you are still embarking on the greatest journey ever told, and that not only are you successful, but you matter, and you, are important, and you did something great.

STOP PRETENDING

No one is a genius, and if you want to call someone such, I believe that what you’re truly acknowledging is their lack of “filter” that they have, whether it be oil painting expression, or deciding to dig deeper into splitting an atom and pondering the laws of the universe. I’ve always thought, “Nothing is hard or difficult, but many things take a lot of time.” It’s all about self-permissions. This is important to acknowledge since I believe that we all have “genius” thoughts. You just didn’t write it down and express it in some way.

Express your thoughts. I just came upon Seth Godin last month for the first time! Seth talks about this. He says everyone should blog, I don’t disagree. I think everyone should journal. Is there a difference? I don’t know anymore. I was raised by my grandfather, I’m old school. Get that junk out of your head in some way, shape or form. It’s flushes the brain toilet out.

Now, when people talk about motivation, following their dreams, dysfunctional habits and setbacks, we all know the answers to our own questions. We all know we just need to get moving. We know what we need to do for ourselves. Yes, ideas from others are great, helpful and guiding. “How to lose weight” “How to be this and do that and follow our dreams and become the ideal versions of ourselves.” Idiots Guide to Loving Ourselves” is hopefully the book no one ever, ever has to write.

We all know what we need to do. We need to STOP PRETENDING that we don’t know who we are and what we want. We are not lost and it’s getting out of control. You are not in an identity crisis. Eat healthy and run. Want to start a business?!  Do it, fail, do it again. Who cares. You do. We all do. Want to paint? What should we do? Say it with me? (paint!) I understand being human is a bitch. It really can suck…  we are meaning making machines trying to add significance to just about everything we do. But we have got to stop pretending that we don’t know what we want for ourselves.

We want to be happy. Do you not have a single interest? Did that BBC special on Penguins not get you totally stoked for the environment. I mean…. if you’re favorite past-time is Candy Crush…. start a candy crush club or something.

I believe this! 100%. Raise your hand if you know meditation can benefit you. Now raise your hand, honestly, if you meditate. Raise your hand if you agree that cigarettes are bad for you. Now, honestly, raise your head if you smoke. It’s ok that you smoke right now. It is. But it’s not ok if you smoke a month from now, especially if you just raised your hand acknowledging that it’s bad for you.

 

 

STEP ONE, STEP TWO. REPEAT

When I leave a meeting I always have everyone walk away with their own Step One & Step Two, steps. Sometimes I assign these steps depending on how I’m feeling that day, or what particular project I’m pushing, but most often I ask the person across the table, “What is your step one and step two?” Step three leads to anxiety, and will make you feel like it’s impossible. I don’t talk about step three.

When a motivation speaker says things like, “It takes 10,000 hours to become an expert,” you’re going to calculate that and realize that it’s a long fucking time. When you see Gary Vaynerchuk post things like, “Execute for 120 months,” it can make you feel a bit intimidated by life. It’s true though.

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